Sunday, October 23, 2016

The Mother That Used Too Much Coconut Oil In Her Child’s Hair ClapsBack!

This is Tionna. Her daughter is a happy Black child with gorgeous natural hair. We know that Tionna is a great mother, not only because her child is healthy and happy, she uses coconut oil in her child’s hair. 

This is a mom that knows what’s up, ookkkkaaaaayyyy?

However, one day she got a note from school from the teacher. Apparently, some of the kids decided to tease her daughter Amia because her hair “stunk”. She asked if she not use so much coconut hair in her daughter’s hair because of the smell and so that the other children wouldn’t tease her all day. 

Tionna flipped a gasket. As many parents would. 
“If you have to apply this daily – please do so lightly, so the kid’s (sic) don’t tease her."

Really? This woman is a teacher and I’ve spotted a few grammatical errors in the letter already.

"Tionna says that she’s been using the same hair grease on Amia’s hair for years but, ironically, the letter came on a day when she’d been sent to school after using a Wash ‘n’ Go shampoo that had merely contained coconut – not actual coconut oil.
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Tionna shared this post online and it went viral. Since the teacher offered an “apology” of sorts. Here is the post that Tionna shared after speaking with Carol the Teacher.....

Carol acted as if she was truly sorry for what happened. But let's be honest, we all know carol would have not cared if the post did not go viral. She does not give a damn about how I feel or how her employee made me feel!!!! All she cares about is her business and her reputation. All I care about is my child!!!! She keep calling me telling me what I need to do. That's the reason all this happened, you telling me what I NEED to do. Let's for the sake of argument say Amia's hair did stink and the bullying really did happen (but it didn't) the letter should have read. "Ms. Norris, an incident occurred at school today where the children teased Amia's hair because they were unfamiliar with the smell. I corrected the issue, we had a lesson about culture and why Amia's hair is different, the other parents were notified and I just wanted to let you know what transpired today." Then, leave it up to me to decide rather or not I want to use a different oil!!!! You ignorant A-hole!!! My child will never be returning there. That whole damn school need to be SHUT DOWN. Sincerely, a pissed off mom! How dare you ever disrespect me and my daughter like that????? And then blame it on the children? PATHETIC! Oh and carol "THANK YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING" 🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾552

Here is the thing. Instead of telling this child to not wear so much coconut oil, which smells awesome if you ask me, how about use this as a opportunity to teach the kids to not tease other kids? How about we stop teaching our children to conform to the ideals of other people in order to fit in vs. being individuals and doing what’s best for them. That’s a novel ideal, right?

Hats off to Tionna for setting this teacher right! What is wrong with this woman? Coconut oil smells divine and we need to teach kids that it’s not alright to bully others because of things they may not understand. Too bad these kids don’t understand the wonderfulness of coconut oil. That should be part of the lesson plan.

ETA: Tionna didn’t use coconut oil on her daughter’s head but a product that used coconut oil as an ingredient. 

Friday, October 21, 2016

Let’s Talk Sew In Tips: For the New School Of Sew Ins

Back in the day, we didn’t talk about weaves. They were a secret. We wore weaves that were “believable”. One didn’t come to work with a twenty six inch weave going to work when just yesterday, she had a Halle Berry cut. You would have been laughed out of school or the office.

Today, weaves are longer than Donald Trump’s tax return (maybe..we haven’t seen it.) And in 2016, it’s no big deal. The longer the hair, the bigger the Diva. This was not true in the 80’s and 90’s. The more light your skin was, the more people would think it was you hair strangely. The darker, can forget about it. Give it up. No one will ever believe that’s yours with dark skin.

However, today, weaves are a lot different. Bundles used to have a lot of hair. Nowadays, they barely put enough in one bundle for a sew in. Back in the day, a bundle would have enough hair for a sew in today. Not any longer. THey’ve gotten smaller and smaller. To where you’d need three and four bundles of hair for a great and thick sew in.

Today, these are tips that you need for a sew in in this day and age.

1. Stop your stylists from chopping up your hair weave!

Hair weaves are expensive. They are car note payments. When you chop up these extensions, you’re creating shedding. When you cut the weft, the hair will shed. SHED. Before long, your expensive hair wefts will be balding. Every time you comb your hair weave, hair will fall into the sink. Tell your stylist to FOLD THE TRACK at the edge instead of cut the track. If you’ve spent a pretty penny for your hair weave, you don’t want the weft to bald. You want that hair to stay as long as you can. So please. Tell your stylist to preserve the wefts. Don’t cut the track. Fold the track.

2. Vixens Aren’t Worth It..

Yes you can wear pigtails. However, if you’ve purchased expensive hair, you MUST cut the wefts to achieve this style. Is it worth it? Stylists also charge a lot of money for these styles. IT’S A PARTIAL WEAVE if you think about it. Yes, there is some intricate braiding going on, but they are charging your for a partial sew in, not a FULL sew in. So why so much? Are they charging you for the versatility? A stylist should always get paid for their work but lets be honest here. A vixen sew in is a partial sew in.

3. Stop perming your entire hair for a sew in!

Yes you want your hair to be IT! You want people to sing Hallelujah when they see your hair. But again, you don’t want to be bald when you take your hair down. NO. If you have worn full sew ins back to back to back, why are you putting chemicals in your head again? There is no need for it. If you’re getting a vixen, then you can perm the leave out however, there will be a chance that you will over process your hair if you don't remember where the leave out was when you do the perm for the rest of your hair. There is no need for chemicals when your hair is all put away. When you decide to relax the sew ins from doing them back to back, THEN you can perm all of your hair. No need to relax all of your hair and then put a full sew in on top of that. You can perm your edges and that’s it.

4. Reuse Your hair!

I can’t believe I have to say this. But re-use the hair as much as you can. You spent the money. Now reuse the weave! Re use it until you can no longer do so and then retire her in a nice grave. It’s your money. Get more bang for your buck. I told my sister to re use her weave and she never listened to me. Now she’s not sure what to do. She needs to wear a weave  due to unfortunate hair loss. However she didn’t reuse the hair and would have to purchase new hair, creating a drain on her finances. She doesn’t listen to anything that I tell her so perhaps I should stop telling her, huh? But that doesn’t mean I have to stop telling YOU.

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Texlaxing Worth It?

What do you do when you want to keep your hair’s texture but you want to straighten the curl pattern more? For those of you that are 4B and 4C, sometimes you just need a better way to maintain your hair AND you don’t mind the use of chemicals to do so.

Introducing Texlaxing. We’ve talked about this before. For a while, I texlaxed. 

But here are the Pros and Cons

This is my niece with her hair just texlaxed. She needs a corrective texlaxing.It didn’t take as well.


You get hair that is manageable.
You get to maintain your curl pattern. 
You get the best of both worlds. 
Your hair gets straighter quickly.


Even though when your hair gets wet and curly, you can’t call yourself a “natural” any longer even though you look natural. 

If you overprocess, your hair will get straight. If you under process, it won’t do much good. You’ve put chemcicals in your hair for no good reason.

You can overprocess in some areas and under process in others, leaving different textures all over your head. 

This is my niece. She is texlaxing her hair. As you can see that her curls hang down her back. Before, that didn’t happen. Her curl pattern was very tight. Her shrinkage is off the charts however. But when we did her texlaxing, her hair began hanging down to her shoulders. However, we still under processed the hair and it’s back to curly. It’s almost in some ways like we did nothing to it. 

applying the creamy crack AKA relaxer

If your hair porosity is off, then putting chemicals in it could make things worse.  With hair that is over porous  the chemicals will work quickly! So you must work fast when doing a relaxed or else the results will make your hair straight. If your hair is low porosity, then the chemical process will take more time. It could take longer to get the results that you want. Therefore, there could be a problem with your hair getting too straight in some areas and not straight enough in other areas. So the porosity of your hair will be important. Someone with high porosity and wanting to add color don’t have to wait long for the color to take. Vice versa with low porosity.

Be careful when adding chemicals to your hair. You should only texlax once or twice a year. Let your new growth be at least three inches long before you do anything. If you relax your hair every eight weeks you need a whooping. Retain the hair that you grow. It’s a great option for those that want to maintain their curl pattern but loosen it just a bit. I loved it. 

Monday, October 17, 2016

Fake Ass Hair Ads On The Internet and Why You Should Stay Away

Hi Michelle. But this is not Michelle. I know this person actually and that’s not her name. These pictures have been stolen in order to get you to buy their product.

But look more closely. Moroccan Argan Oil can’t make your hair grow. It can make your hair manageable but not grow. Taking care of your hair by doing good things and drinking water and eating good food is the way to hair growth. There is no product over night that will make you Rapunzel.

Just beware of these companies that steal pictures to try and sell you something. Your hair will grow when you take the time out to take care of it. It will take care of you. I had learned this lesson the hard way and I had many bumps on the road. Now I’m surprised when I feel something on my back. I realize now that it’s MY hair. That’s a wonderful feeling.

Friday, October 14, 2016

How To Grow Your Edges Back


It is the rallying cry of many women of color.
It is a great “Clap back” when you’re insulting someone. Just go after their edges and you’ll win the battle in the insults when it comes to women of color.

But why are your edges disappearing in the first place

Many reasons.


Lupus, alopecia, thyroid problems...these diseases and illnesses can thin your hair along with your edges. I know that this problem exists for me, in the front of my hair. Discoid lesions pop up in my scalp often and thins my hair out in the very front. Those with thyroid problems can have issues with hair thinning as well. Certain medications can contribute to this.


Either your life is not going well or you’re playing with your hair too much. Stress mentally and physically can make your edges disappear.


That weave is pulling your hair and that ponytail is too tight. Leave these things alone! Loosen up your hair and stop piling that gel into your hair. It’s thinning your edges. You need to sleep with the proper protection.

What can I do to bring my edges back?

Use a Growth Aid -- Find a good growth aid and apply this to your edges. I use a Monistat mixture that can help with hair growth all over. For those that have followed by blog, you know that I gained an additional inch + with my hair!

Scalp Massages   Grab some Jamaican Black Castor Oil and massage those edges ladies. Make sure you do a scalp massage every night.

Low Manipulation Styles  Wear styles where your hands are not always in your hair. Do your hair and forget about it! You don’t want to wear styles that need constant upkeep.

Vitamins-- Take Vitamin E B12, C, and Biotin. IT’S important that you put good things inside of you if you want good things to come out of your scalp. Drink lots of water!!!! Your hair and skin will thank you for it!

Stay Away From Edge Control and Gel-- This stuff is MURDER on your edges. Stick with water, beeswax and a SCARF to keep your edges sleek. The scarf should not be so tight that your eyes bulge out of your head and should only be applied for fifteen minutes. If you have to use gel, use a light one that doesn’t have alcohol. VERY LITTLE AMOUNT. The size of a dime. Some of ya’ll get crazy with it. You don’t need to dip your hand in the bottle of gel.

Stop! Drop the hot comb! You need to focus on styles that are low manipulation. Be careful with wigs that have combs at the edges. These things will rip your hair right out of your head. Treat your edges like lace for a few months (well do this as a lifestyle change) and you’ll see your edges growing back. If they don’t, then you may be looking at permanent damage and see a dermatologist.

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Hair Not Getting Slip? Check Your Porosity!

Everyone should know about the strand test to check for porosity. But how does hair behave with low, medium, and high porosity?

I once had hair that was dry. No matter how much conditioner I used, no matter how much I slathered on, I couldn’t get that “slip” feeling. My hair was even turning red! Copper red! Another sign of high porosity.

Low Porosity-- Hair is shiny and healthy but... It repels moisture! Products don’t soak into your hair. It just sits on top mostly. This hair is prone to BUILD UP! If you use a lot of product. If you use a little product, it doesn’t matter. However, it will also not hold chemicals well. It will resist a chemical process like a perm.

You need moisturizers rich in EMOLLIENTS. LIKE SHEA BUTTER. You can also benefit from Humectant products. This attracts and hold moisture in your hair.

Steam conditioning works GREAT FOR YOU! However, be careful of different gels. If you don’t use the right gel, it will flake and build. You will need to clarify your hair more often than your counterparts because you will get buildup from products more frequently! So keep a clarifying shampoo in the shower!

Use warm water to open cuticles and cold water to close!!!  Use water based products as well! Heavy conditioners will just “sit” on your hair so avoid these. Also stay away from heavy protein as well!

If you want to color your hair, it will take a much longer time because your hair will not take chemicals well.

Medium Porosity--Ideal hair type....however... Requires the least amount of handling and maintenance. However keep checking your hair porosity levels because this is subject to change. Use protein and moisture products regularly. This is ideal! Keep checking the levels to make sure your hair doesn’t go the other way.

High Porosity--Dry as a bone. Won’t hold moisture if you threatened it. Damaged but....Won’t hold moisture to save your life. Feels dry. Your hair will dry very quickly. You may think that’s a good thing. It’s not. It’s an indication that  your hair has high porosity. This would happen to me. I could wet my hair in the shower and it would be bone dry in thirty minutes. It would turn copper red in some parts. High porosity!!! It would not hold “slip” from the most moisturizing conditioners!

There are gaps and holes in the cuticle that won’t allow moisture to penetrate the cuticle. Use heavy moisturizers and leave in conditioners. This needs to be corrected so I would recommend using Roux Porosity Corrector from Revlon. This treatment helped me tremendously. Use anti-humectant products when the humidity is off the charts!

Trim the damaged parts of your hair slowly.... If you want to color your hair, watch out! It will take color quick! But it will fade quickly too. So you will need some preconditioning and fillers before you color your hair.

ACV (Apple cider vinegar rinses) will help close the cuticle and clarify your hair as well.

Thursday, October 6, 2016

People Are Laughing But This Is No Laughing Matter

Dresslily and Bad photoshopping

This is a beautiful beauty blogger. She is on instagram. She is also wearing her natural hair in a great style! This should be the end of the story but it isn’t. 

I have a Facebook page where we talk about consumer issues, where we target these companies that sell from overseas and scam people out of their money by sending crap. They show pictures of one thing and then send another. The very definition of a scam. In many cases, you don’t get anything at all. False advertising counts as a scam too and you shouldn’t support any site that stoops to these tactics. stole her picture and photoshopped another girl onto her face to sell a wig. The problem is, the girl is not wearing a wig. Its her hair and they didn’t have permission to use the photo. Buzzed did an article about it, but it’s not funny. We urge you to stay away from these sites and not to purchase from them. On our FB page, we have a spreadsheet with companies that have been proven to be a scam. Stay away.


There is nothing funny about doing this to someone. Some people may be laughing, but we are not. Your identity should be protected and not used as fodder to sell low end products. 

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