Thursday, February 2, 2017

Hair Length Check Jan 2017

This is the state of my hair today. I’m not sure where I am on the scale of lengths but I believe Im somewhere between APL and BSB. I was hoping to be a strong BSB but with the current chemotherapy treatments, I am having an issue with hair growth. 

This is the hair loss. I actually had more than this. But this is all I took a picture of. This is mostly from the front of my hair. 

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

I’m Doing Everything Right so What Am I Doing Wrong?: 5 Reasons Why Won’t My Hair Grow

You keep your hair clean and you take care of it as well as you think it should be. Why won’t your hair grow then? You have seen the girls on YouTube with their hair down to their hips. So why can’t that be you? Why does it seem like when it comes to you, your hair won’t grow?

Well there could be a few reasons....

1.Do you cut your ends more than twice a year?

2. Do you go to a stylist more than twice a year?

3. Do you have chemicals in your hair?

4. Do you always have your hands in your hair?

5. What type of styles do you wear?

Answer these five questions and it could give some insight into why your hair won’t grow.

Let us look at number one.  Stylists love to cut hair. They often cut off an inch or a half an inch here and there. Well think about it. The average person’s hair growth for a year is six inches. If you are getting your ends cut from an inch at least twice a year, you’ve lost two inches. Any more than that and you’re literally cutting off your progress. SO it looks as if your hair isn’t growing when it is.
After! Look at my ponytail Now!

Number two is almost the same as #1 and #5. When you go to the stylist, lots of things are being done to your hair at once. Whether chemicals are being applied, ends are being cut, or you are wearing high maintenance styles, this can affect your growth as well.

Breakage is a BITCH!
Number three is interesting because this could be controversial. Yes, women with relaxers hair can grow as long as anyone’s, however if you’re not taking care of your hair, it will affect it. Your hair is always growing, we are simply talking about retaining length. That’s key here. The more chemicals you put in your hair, the more you must do to keep up the health. We all say that we will make sure our hair is healthy but life often gets in the way. You may be too tired to moisturize or shampoo your hair one day. One day won’t hurt but it could lead to a pattern. Relaxed hair needs protein. Natural hair needs more moisture. Our hair can use both. Too much of either and disaster can strike. Not enough of either and again...disaster.  If you’re going to put hair color or a relaxer in your hair, you must take care of it.

Hand in Hair disease can lead to too much manipulation. That can lead to breakage. Doing this results in losing length. I promise you, this leads to a lot of headache. I’ve never had long hair until now.

My hair is finally the way that I want it to look after all these years!

After my hair started to grow, I began to play with it constantly. I would smack the back of my neck, not realizing that it was MY hair that was tickling it. Hilarious. However, it’s important that you keep your hands out of your hair and wear low manipulation styles. Bantu knots are NOT a protective style. They are a low manipulation style. 

And #5....what kinds of styles do you wear? We all want our hair to be cute, but it is important that we choose styles where your hair is kept clean, neat, and protected. The more complicated the style, the more chance you have to damage your hair. Treat your hair like lace. It’s okay to wear elaborate styles SOMETIMES. But not all the time. If you want long hair, then you must make sure that you are keeping it protected. That’s the key. You know, ten years ago, I began my hair journey. I’ve made mistakes. Technically I should be at waist length but I had some setbacks and medical issues. But I’ve waited years to be shoulder length and now I’m beyond that. 

You can be too. I made mistakes but I write about them so that YOU don’t make them. You’ll surpass me soon enough and I’ll see you at waist length.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Snap Weaves Are Here Y’all!

Snap on, snap off.

Childs play.

Its a saying that people use when they are stating that something is easy that a child could do it. Now, it’s really true. Your child could literally snap on your weave. I don’t know about doing the entire job, however, a child could manage to snap on a track or two before running off to watch Nick Jr.

So it’s here. Snapping an entire weave on. Hairstylists and beauticians, pack your things because the most ignorant person can now install their own weaves and make it look professional. There is really no way that one could mess this one up.

Using a special cap with snaps, one could literally snap their weave on and off at will. Want to go from curly to straight? You can do so in minutes. An entire head can be done in thirty minutes.

This is the cap that is being used.  It has snaps on it and will allow you to snap the tracks on it, which have snaps as well. The front of the wig has snaps for the closures with snaps on it as well. It really is ingenious.

There are many different types of hair that you can use. I have heard that people like the hair and said that it’s great but I can’t really go on these early reports as to the quality of the hair. This could revolutionize the entire industry. Especially if this system picks up steam. Women spend millions of dollars a year for hair extensions. 

The downside to this is that I haven’t seen a system for women that are interested in a marital weave versus an entire weave. For some one that just wants a few tracks in their hair, I don’t see how this system would be helpful to them. I could be missing something, however I’m not sure how that would be addressed. But the awesome part is that you don’t have to be a hair stylist to want to get a sew in weave AND the fact that it is affordable. 

If you purchase a bundle, the special U-Part Cap comes with it. 

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

End of The Year Length Check and Happy Holidays


So here we are at the end of the year. 2016 has been a tumultuous one. For many different reasons too. I’ll stay away from politics here but I will say that there are lots of changes that are to come in this country and I’m not sure if that’s a good or bad thing.

My hair has had its triumphs and devastating blows. I started chemo this year and so far, it’s not made a difference but with my thyroid issues, my hair is brittle...but growing. Which I’m glad for.

Top ways of Taking Care of Your Hair on Chemo

1. Not everyone loses their hair on chemo. It depends. Use mild products, even baby shampoo if you wish.

2. Chemo may affect how hair coloring takes to your hair. Avoid having these procedures done.

3. I’ve read that some women hair grew in a different texture or even color after chemo. One woman had curly hair after straight hair all her life.

4. Stay away from styles pulling your hair.

5. Natural products may or may not work for your illness, but your hair will love it. Make sure you do your research first on the product that you want to use.

My Hair

My hair everyone! One day I was bored and I twisted my hair in twists. It’s been like that for two months now. Hubby doesn’t like it but’s not his hair, right? So I’ve been wearing this style and I like it fine for walking around the house and going outside for errands. I haven’t done much but try to work out and get my legs moving. I look forward to ditching my wheelchair one day but not sure how or if I can do that.  But it sure feels good to try and make my legs stronger again.

So I had my daughter stretch my hair and she showed me the length of my hair. It’s growing. So I’ve learned that minimal things will grow your hair. You don’t need a lot ladies and gents.

Is this BSL or BSB (Bra Strap Length or Beyond Shoulder Blade)?
Let me know in the comments and see you in 2017!

Happy Holidays to you all.

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Wait! Before You Buy That Weave from AliExpress Read This!

First off, I love Doll Face Barbie and this is not about him. This is about buying weave from vendors.

Doll Face Barbie has one of the best install videos on YouTube. I watch his videos with envy as he flips through his hair and lip syncs to popular songs on the videos.

The hair that he gets FOR FREE most of the time, he installs and does a review video. Now again, I LOVE DOLL FACE BARBIE, but I want you to think about this for a second. DFB gets tons of hair for free. His installs don’t really last longer than four weeks. Most of you buying hair from AliExpress will be wearing the hair that you purchase much longer than this. You will be wearing this weave and be doing many things to it: cutting curling, etc.

DFB can afford this. Many of you can not. Many of you lovely ladies are in school and are trying to do better for yourselves while being the Goddesses that you are. But DFB will have a new install in a few weeks. Chances are, you’ll be wearing the same one.

Choose your vendors wisely.

On DFB videos, there are comments under this beautiful hair where women are complaining about the bad quality of some of the hair. Does DFB just get a better batch? Perhaps. Or it could be that he’s only wearing that hair once or twice.

Make sure you get more reviews before spending your hair earned  money.
DFB is fabulous beyond words. I love him and his positive message. I’m just asking you to take a step back for a minute and make sure you know wha you’re purchasing first. Don’t go off one review. DFB always looks fabulous no matter what. Make sure you do as well.

Friday, October 28, 2016

Please Wash Your Weave Ladies...Please!?!?!?

I have not singled out a race in this blog post. Why? Because when things go wrong, people always want to blame Black women to make us look bad for whatever reason they may have. 

There are tons of women that get sew in weaves and do not have the slightest clue what to do once they are installed.

So they do nothing but make sure that it looks good. They’ll take a flat iron or some curlers to their hair but they forget about the upkeep. I used to be like that. I was scared of washing my hair because I thought that I would mess something up.

There is this myth that Black women don’t wash their hair at all or very little. Well, that’s not really true. Due to the nature of our hair, daily washing is not necessary.

Oily and greasy hair is the result of not washing for those with straight hair. Curly hair?  Not So much!

Her hair was so matted up it had to be cut off!

So SOME Black women don’t wash their hair when it’s in a weave because they are not sure how to take care of it OR they are afraid they will mess up the style. This is what happens when you leave a weave in for an extended period of time. 

Your hair is GROWING. UNDER THOSE STITCHES. Since it’s braided up, it’s going to get matted and twisted up. There is little to do to save the hair underneath. So, this must be removed once the hair is matted.  

There is a legacy with Black women. Men like Tommy Sotomayor ignores this legacy when he makes ignorant videos about Black women JUST to get views for his channel,  but he doesn't realize the damage that he is doing to women of color and young men of color that watch his videos and are influenced. 

Our grandmothers did the same to our mothers. “Nappy headed gal!” “Good hair” are terms they grew up hearing. Then we grew up hearing the same things. That our worth was because of the hair on our heads. Parameters were set for ‘good’ and ‘bad’ hair and we were off! Generations of black women had their beauty confiscated from them. 

FAST FORWARD TO TODAY...Black women began to wear weave. Some because they like the style, others because it’s a protective style, but some of them are ashamed of their hair and how it won’t grow. It’s true. Some women are ashamed of the way it looks. I was one of those women. But instead of trying to lift these women up, Mr. Sotomayor drags them back down in the mud. 
It is important that if you’re going to wear a weave, you need to take care of it. Washing your hair is important. IT’s also important that you don’t keep the weave in for too long because your hair is still growing and it will tangle in with the hair and the stitches. So please wash your hair. 

Some women use a squirt bottle with shampoo and water to get under closures and full sew ins. The challenge is to make sure it’s DRY so sit under a dryer!!! So MILDEW doesn’t set in. It will. You have to cut that out.

  • IT’S important that you WASH your hair. 
  • Use a squirt bottle with shampoo and water to get under closures and full sew ins
  • Make sure the hair is super DRY. If you have a closure or a full sew in, a sit under dryer is imperative so you won’t get mildew.

Sunday, October 23, 2016

The Mother That Used Too Much Coconut Oil In Her Child’s Hair ClapsBack!

This is Tionna. Her daughter is a happy Black child with gorgeous natural hair. We know that Tionna is a great mother, not only because her child is healthy and happy, she uses coconut oil in her child’s hair. 

This is a mom that knows what’s up, ookkkkaaaaayyyy?

However, one day she got a note from school from the teacher. Apparently, some of the kids decided to tease her daughter Amia because her hair “stunk”. She asked if she not use so much coconut hair in her daughter’s hair because of the smell and so that the other children wouldn’t tease her all day. 

Tionna flipped a gasket. As many parents would. 
“If you have to apply this daily – please do so lightly, so the kid’s (sic) don’t tease her."

Really? This woman is a teacher and I’ve spotted a few grammatical errors in the letter already.

"Tionna says that she’s been using the same hair grease on Amia’s hair for years but, ironically, the letter came on a day when she’d been sent to school after using a Wash ‘n’ Go shampoo that had merely contained coconut – not actual coconut oil.
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Tionna shared this post online and it went viral. Since the teacher offered an “apology” of sorts. Here is the post that Tionna shared after speaking with Carol the Teacher.....

Carol acted as if she was truly sorry for what happened. But let's be honest, we all know carol would have not cared if the post did not go viral. She does not give a damn about how I feel or how her employee made me feel!!!! All she cares about is her business and her reputation. All I care about is my child!!!! She keep calling me telling me what I need to do. That's the reason all this happened, you telling me what I NEED to do. Let's for the sake of argument say Amia's hair did stink and the bullying really did happen (but it didn't) the letter should have read. "Ms. Norris, an incident occurred at school today where the children teased Amia's hair because they were unfamiliar with the smell. I corrected the issue, we had a lesson about culture and why Amia's hair is different, the other parents were notified and I just wanted to let you know what transpired today." Then, leave it up to me to decide rather or not I want to use a different oil!!!! You ignorant A-hole!!! My child will never be returning there. That whole damn school need to be SHUT DOWN. Sincerely, a pissed off mom! How dare you ever disrespect me and my daughter like that????? And then blame it on the children? PATHETIC! Oh and carol "THANK YOU FOR UNDERSTANDING" 🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾552

Here is the thing. Instead of telling this child to not wear so much coconut oil, which smells awesome if you ask me, how about use this as a opportunity to teach the kids to not tease other kids? How about we stop teaching our children to conform to the ideals of other people in order to fit in vs. being individuals and doing what’s best for them. That’s a novel ideal, right?

Hats off to Tionna for setting this teacher right! What is wrong with this woman? Coconut oil smells divine and we need to teach kids that it’s not alright to bully others because of things they may not understand. Too bad these kids don’t understand the wonderfulness of coconut oil. That should be part of the lesson plan.

ETA: Tionna didn’t use coconut oil on her daughter’s head but a product that used coconut oil as an ingredient. 

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